After a rocky, high risk pregnancy, my 4th son arrived safe and sound. I quit the InGender swaying forum because it was driving me insane to give advice to people that I KNEW either didn’t sway at all or even swayed in the wrong direction, and to watch people do control freak things that anyone could plainly see was sending their testosterone through the roof (which may sway blue) chasing after sway “factors” that didn’t even work.
Plus, some of the advice on IG was and is just plain DANGEROUS and even though I tried to get it corrected, it was like it fell onto deaf ears. People were getting terribly sick on both the pink and blue sway diets and everyone just seemed miserable all the time. Marriages were falling apart – regularly! When sways failed, it was like a pack of vultures descended to pick everything apart and play the blame game. 😦 And no one seemed to feel that there was any problem at all with any of it.
But by that point, I had been bitten by the science bug. I knew that natural gender swaying was real and that we had the data we needed in order to have successful sways was for the first time in human history, right there and available to all of us. This is possible!!! I wanted to shout it from the rooftops and stop strangers in the streets to tell them all about it!! I kept doing research on my own simply because I enjoyed it so much and the things I found were so very exciting. I have been doing research for nearly 15 years now and NOTHING I’ve ever come across has made me doubt that gender swaying is real, and that Trivers-Willard, Maternal Dominance Hypothesis, and blood glucose levels are at the heart of it.
Then IG began to fall apart and many people left at that time. I was approached with an offer to join a new site called Gender Dreaming and I jumped at it. I had been chomping at the bit for an opportunity to develop a better way to sway, that was physically, emotionally, and maritally more healthy and balanced, and that actually focused on what WORKED rather than old wives’ tales and “science” that had literally NO real-world biological support. (Studies are all well and good, but if something doesn’t add up in the real world and most importantly, make sense with the fundamental workings of the human body, then it cannot be true and there must be another explanation for the results). I felt then and now to this day still feel even more, that it is entirely possible to have a sway for a boy or a girl, that is easier to do, is healthier, better for fertility, and yet is more effectivve than the IG sway “factors” and that is why I happily got up every day since 2010 to answer over 100,000 swaying questions on Gender Dreaming instead of taking up crochet. And now, in addition to that awesome website I’m so proud to be a part of, I’m moving forward with this new blog and helping people to sway in a whole new way!
So just a brief overview of how the atomic sagebrush view of swaying is different than the traditional style sway:
1)Timing – I do not believe timing sways in any real way.
If timing does sway ~slightly~ it’s because of certain factors that tend to be true most of the time for a majority of people – as in, people tend to have drier cervical mucus at some parts of the cycle than others, or because of frequency patterns or number of attempts that are done alongside timing. If you are NOT in this majority, or not doing that suggested frequency/number of attempts, timing will do NOTHING for you. If you have altered your cycle with diet and supplements, your past cycles very well may be meaningless for predicting future timing. And even if you are in this majority, there are much more reliable ways to accomplish the same effects, like using antihistamines to dry up cervical mucus and sticking to one attempt for pink, 3 attempts for blue. Plus, timing is very difficult for people to figure out and can keep you from getting pregnant (especially the O+12 for pink and the Shettles O Day attempt for blue)
We have found that it is actually the number of attempts in the fertile window that sways – 1 for pink, 3 or more for blue. Not timing.
2)Sperm count/quality – I believe that for reasons we do not fully understand, lower numbers and lower quality of sperm, sways pink. I also believe that any condition in the female reproductive tract at any point between vagina and egg, that makes it harder for sperm to survive to make it to the egg, also sways pink. My theory of swaying is “the fertility theory” which is just that anything that improves fertility, tends to sway blue, and anything that lowers fertility, tends to sway pink. One attempt has also been shown in our results to sway strongly pink, while regular unprotected sex sways blue and having 3-5 attempts in the fertile window has been very effective for boys.
3)pH – I do not believe that pH sways because X sperm “love” low pH and Y sperm “love” high pH. ALL sperm prefer medium pH which is why both semen and CM naturally have pH in the 7’s. Low pH may sway pink because it makes it harder for sperm to survive to make it to the egg (see 2 above). High pH in the vagina may help sway blue by counteracting low vaginal pH and making up for any lack of EWCM in the vagina. I do not believe that anything you stick into your vagina can infiltrate your entire reproductive tract and so I do not believe that repeated douching for days after your attempt, is in any way necessary or a good idea. pH only matters WHEN you DTD and not afterwards and obsessively checking pH only sends testosterone (or at least, control freak tendencies) skyrocketing. (testosterone MAY sway blue, control freakishness absolutely sways blue)
4)EWCM (egg white cervical mucus) -Lots of alkaline EWCM (in the 7’s) helps sperm to survive and swim to the egg. Again, nothing to do with one sperm preferring high pH, it’s that ALL sperm do best in medium pH and good EWCM, and more, healthier sperm seems to equal more boys.
5)Diet – Diet is BY FAR the most important and effective sway tactic there is. I believe the IGD and FGD (InGender and French Gender Diets) sway, not because of minerals but because they tend to be more Low-Everything for pink swayers, High-Everything for blue swayers. They are very far from ideal tho (especially for blue swayers) and I hope that everyone fully investigates their diet options before settling on the IGD or FGD just because they have more results. I didn’t even MAKE a diet until well into 2011 so that I don’t have as many results as “the other guys” doesn’t say anything at all about my diet, other than that it is new. (2022 update – the LE and HE Diets have gotten GREAT results and I can say definitively our diets are not just as good, but BETTER than the other swaying diets – not only in terms of results, but also in terms of health and fertility. If you don’t think the LE Diet is for you, we have an alternate version of the LE Diet that is even better in terms of results and is healthier, but is a bit harder to stick to.
6)Minerals – I don’t think the minerals sway in the ways that IG and FGD claim. It simply doesn’t make any sense at all because the body has very tight controls on mineral levels and it is IMPOSSIBLE to go out of a very narrow range of these minerals…if you do, you die. When you ingest too much of one nutrient, your body just excretes more of it, and when you eat too little, your body saves more from the foods you eat – net result, the levels in your body never change. Additionally, the difference between the boy and girl mineral diets are often very ridiculous – such as, the difference in potassium in a small bowl of strawberries every day. It makes no sense that people have a boy or a girl due to having eaten a bowl of strawberries!
7)Ions – Sperm do NOT have different electrical charges and therefore CANNOT be pulled along by any ion in CM or semen. Plus, your body MAKES ions out of the foods you eat to do the tasks it needs ions to do, and does not get its ion supply by collect mystical particles that emanate from the moon on a mission to invade your vagina. Everyone’s CM contains calcium, magnesium, sodium, and potassium ions – it’s supposed to! PLEASE do not waste precious financial resources on gimmicky devices that are supposed to surround you with ions of the right “type”. Does it really make sense to you on a gut level that by wearing a bracelet, you can make yourself conceive a child of a certain gender?? If it’s an affordable and pretty bracelet, no harm done, but I have seen too many swayers simply “up the ions” to counteract issues with their diets!! Diets really sway for actual biological reasons, bracelets don’t.
8)The moon and seasons – even though I don’t believe ions sway either via moon phases or seasons, there MAY be something to the idea that the moon and/or seasons do sway in some other fashion. It’s certainly not anything worth stressing over, though.
9)Hormones – I do believe it is ~possible~ higher but still normal levels of testosterone sway blue in both DH and DW with the warning that artificially elevated levels of testosterone in men (as in, steroid usage) may actually sway pink by harming sperm. I suspect that high levels of estrogen sway pink in DH, but am still not convinced that estrogen is important for DW either way (because you NEED a decent amount of estrogen to get pregnant with a girl or a boy). But if estrogen does sway, I am in agreement that higher estrogen in DW prob. sways blue. I am REALLY not convinced that high progesterone = girls (and our experience since I originally wrote this essay have all but proven it, with many women getting girls with low progesterone and short LP). My thinking is that it makes more sense that higher levels of all three sex hormones = boys because everything that helps fertility, seems to sway blue and progesterone is def. required for fertility. Since the jury on this is still out, I think it’s best for swayers to concentrate primarily on testosterone and to a lesser extent, estrogen, rather than progesterone. Progesterone will take care of itself – on a blue diet it will go up, on a pink diet it will decline. Do not use over the counter progesterone creams for swaying as they can disrupt your cycle.
Your body does NOT get its hormones by EATING testosterone or progesterone. It manufactures all its own hormones from fat and cholesterol. So the advice given on some swaying sites to eat eggs because they contain progesterone, to raise progesterone and sway pink, is not good advice, because your body will simply use the cholesterol in eggs to manufacture testosterone and estrogen if it needs them!! Same with red meat – you do not get your testosterone from eating red meat, your body uses the fat and cholesterol to make testosterone – red meat is good for testosterone either way but just so you know that it’s not the testosterone in meat doing anything. You also must use supps carefully to make sure you are not depleting your body of hormones you need for conception.
And you must control the demand side of the equation as well through lifestyle changes…if swaying pink, you want to assure your body that you don’t need massive amounts of testosterone to survive (so pink swayers, please cease the very control freakish behavior!), and if swaying blue, you want to encourage your body to make more.
10)Blood sugar – I believe lowering blood sugar for pink and keeping it stable for blue is among the most important things you can do for your sway. However, the advice given on IG is inaccurate and not helpful (and this info originally COMES from me so please trust me!) Unless you have PCOS, egg quality issues, or have more than 30 pounds to spare, you CAN eat sugar when TTC pink (don’t eat it all day long, tho) OR blue (eat protein and sweets together) and keeping blood sugar low for pink isn’t only important in the morning! And for the love of all that is good and holy, if you are swaying for blue, DO NOT EAT the breakfast of Rice Krispies with non-dairy creamer that InGender recommended for many years, because that is about the worst thing you can do for your blood sugar!!
11)Exercise – If you have read “cardio sways pink” and “weights sway blue”, well, the reality is vastly more complex than that and doing cardio in moderation MAY SWAY BLUE! And if you lift so many weights it actually eats away at your muscle, it sways PINK!
12)Things like moon phases, Jonas Calendar, Chinese Gender Calendar, biorhythms, etc. have NO scientific data to back them up. DO NOT stress yourself out over these things in any way and it is highly concerning to me that anyone should do things like skip a month of TTC or worse yet, go onto Birth Control Pills (especially blue swayers, because BCP sway pink!) in an attempt to get your ovulation into the right moon phase or biorhythm. I saw several swayers doing this on IG and being encouraged to do so, and it is appalling to me because regardless of swaying, BCP also have side effects and risks that should not be taken lightly.
13)Safety first, last, and always. InGender to this very day has references to things in their guidelines that are proven to be extremely dangerous. People have ended up in the hospital due to InGender recommendations.
14)Never forget, testosterone (or whatever it is that is swaying via personality factors) raises and drops based on cues that is receives from your environment. If your body “thinks” you need more testosterone for survival (because you are undertaking challenges that seriously matter to you – like swaying – or doing things that your body interprets as competitive – again, like swaying) it WILL MAKE testosterone out of anything it can get its greedy little enzymes on – INCLUDING eggs, milk, tahini, and even your own stored body fat. Pink swayers, there is no way for you to utterly deplete your diet/body of the raw materials to make testosterone without seriously harming your health (and you won’t be able to conceive then anyway.) You have to cut demand for testosterone at the same time and swaying can all too often feed the beast. DON’T attempt control freakish sway tactics that do not work and run the risk of raising T levels thru the roof, like timing or obsessively checking pH. A “perfect” sway can TOTALLY be a failed sway!!
Blue swayers, if you are getting overwhelmed and discouraged with swaying, if you feel that you can’t get it right, that it cannot happen for you, that you do not “deserve” a son, or that other people’s sways are always better than yours, this is the kind of mindset proven to lower testosterone regardless of what foods you eat or what supps you take. YOU CAN DO THIS!!
15)If you can’t get pregnant, you have NO CHANCE at your desired gender. Many things we do to sway makes it much less likely you’ll get pg. It’s fine for people on InGender to say that they would have gone on swaying hard every month until menopause – AFTER they’ve already gotten their DG! It is MUCH better to hit it hard on diet (which works) while dropping the things that don’t even sway to begin with, like timing, then to try and include everything, while reducing your odds of conception so far that it takes a year or more or more to conceive. Blue swayers will gain too much weight and pink swayers will lose too much weight. atomic sagebrush’s personal goal is for all our swayers without underlying fertility challenges to get pregnant within 6 months and 3 is even better. Our average time to conception back on Gender Dreaming was 3 months for both pink and blue!
16)ABOVE ALL – swaying must fit into your life and not the other way around. Swaying should not leave you a miserable, physically ill shell of your former self. Your kids and finances should not suffer and your marriage should not be strained because of swaying. People get their desired gender even after SEVERAL of the other, by doing nothing other than they have every other day of their lives – no swaying! Michelle Duggar has conceived 5 girls in a row after having 10 sons (interspersed with 4 girls), without swaying. NONE of us is predestined to have all or even mostly one gender. It may very well be that the only thing you need to do to get your desired gender is to get pregnant again.
And my happy ending is this – using the methods I devised, researched, and fine tuned at Gender Dreaming, I did indeed conceive a baby girl named Suzy after 21 years of having boy after boy!
I would LOVE to help you get that boy or girl you’re dreaming of! love, atomic sagebrush
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